Dating Tips from the Science of Attraction

I was fortunate enough to be able to spend some time with Andrew Trees, author of Decoding Love: Why It Takes Twelve Frogs to Find a Prince, and Other Revelations from the Science of Attraction.  You might recognize Andrew Trees as the one who is comically recognized as the “smart one” who regularly appears on the Guys Tell All segment of the Today Show, gracing Hoda and Kathie Lee with some much needed perspective and a strong male view on dating in the 21st century.

When I told Andrew about LuvHertz.com he was excited about doing some work together!  I am so pleased to be able to share these dating tips with you which have been created by Andrew exclusively for LuvHertz.com!  I think you’ll find that these are not your average dating tips! Enjoy!

Dating Tips for LuvHertz.com, By Andrew Trees

1. Selective desire is better than generalized desire.  In other words, don’t hit on everyone you meet. In a recent study, people who were seen as having generalized desire were perceived as less desirable, while people who showed desire for just one person were viewed much more positively. Also, in a study of speed dating, researchers found that the choosier people were, the higher others rated their appeal.

2. Make lots of eye contact. Eye contact boosts attractiveness, regardless of the sex. In a study conducted by psychologist Arthur Aron, total strangers were paired up and had a ninety-minute conversation in which they shared personal details about themselves. Then they gazed silently into one another’s eyes for four minutes. Afterwards, they were asked about their feelings for the other person, and many of the participants admitted that they felt strongly attracted.

3. Worry about how you act, more than how you look. A study found that attractiveness, emotional expressiveness, and social skills all contributed to someone’s likeability but that attractiveness was the least important of the three.

4. Show the person that you like him or her. Researchers have discovered that how much we think someone likes us has a powerful effect on how much we like them.

5. Although it is a bit of an odd metric, try to partner with someone who has had roughly the same number of sexual partners as yourself. Research has found that, on average, these couples feel greater commitment and satisfaction about their relationship and also experience greater love for one another.

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Andrew on the Today Show:  http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/29054368/#42071327

Andrew with Tyra: